but I digress...
As I am decorating my home in stages for Christmas (because doing it all in one shot means I have hours of uninterrupted time to spend decking the halls. I assure you I have no time to deck all the halls at once!) I came across this letter my almost 12 year old son sent to us in the mail a few weeks ago. As a class assignment his teacher instructed the students to write a letter of thanks. It was - initially - quite a nice surprise.
Allow me to share it with you:
11-16-11Dear Mom and Dad,I want to thank you for all the things you have done. You have done a lot. You give me food on the table. You let me play sports. You give me help whenever I need it. If I get sick then you care for me. You never forget about me if I need a ride or if I want more food. I love you mom and dad and I will never forget what you have done for me.Love, Er
A little pathetic? Yep!
If he doesn't get the same amount of food as the other kids (and no one counts the pile of pancakes as closely as Er) or if you are a nanosecond late picking him up he automatically thinks he's been abandoned.
In a family our size it's a bit of a jump-in-or-get-left-out game plan. Unfortunately he often feels left out. The funny thing about middle children is that in reality they probably don't get any more or any less than any other family member and yet they obsess about focusing on any minor discrepancies.
So how's a mother of a Tribe like mine to move forward? Well, I try to give Er the time he needs; the kind word and physical hugs that he likes so much. But I'm starting to think I should serve him first in the buffet line that forms in my kitchen 3 to 5 times a day. Maybe if I can dish out his portion first he'll continue to -at least- have something to be thankful about!
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